How to Shelter in Place with your Soon To Be ExBy DADvocacy™ | April 22, 2020
For decades, couples who are soon-to-be-divorcing have lived together out of financial necessity or lack of other immediate housing options. Now, this situation may be governmentally mandated, and work can offer no escape. Here are some tips to help you navigate this overwhelmingly difficult time.
- Don’t vent within earshot of your soon to be ex or your kids. It’s passive aggressive and immature.
- Be clear and give advance notice of your need for physical space and quiet time
- In turn, offer the same to your ex. It might be the only way to keep some level of peace.
- Do not “divide” any household items right now. There are no stores easily offering replacements of electronics, small appliances and dishes. You need to share, as unfair as it may seem.
- Do not pass the time by having sex with your soon to be ex. Especially if you have children. This is confusing and causes even more negativity. It is especially confusing for children to be taught that people who don’t like one another think it’s okay to have sex with one another.
- Do not pass the time having sex with anyone else in any home shared with your spouse. If your new significant other lives alone, go over there, depending on what your health and governmental restrictions permit. Be discreet.Very discreet.
- Work on yourself. If you can claim any privacy at all, this time is best spent in online/Zoom counseling, self-help programs and prayer.
- If you are not working, and can do so very privately, begin the tedious task of assembling those documents needed to divorce. If you are divorcing in Florida, the forms are here: https://www.flcourts.org/Resources-Services/Court-Improvement/Family-Courts/Family-Law-Self-Help-Information/Family-Law-Forms#905 Tips for completing the most time-consuming of the forms, the financial affidavit, is here: https://dadvocacy.com/blog/2018/january/tips-for-completing-your-florida-financial-affidavit-without-a-lawyer.
9. Keep yourself safe and healthy. A divorce is exhausting under ideal conditions.