Tips to Co-Parent During the Holidays After DivorceBy DADvocacy™ | November 30, 2018
The holidays are often a hectic and busy time for many of us and, if you are divorced and have children, the challenges will undoubtedly be greater. However, there are ways to effectively co-parent with your former spouse during the holidays while sparing your children added stress.
Below is a list of tips that can help you and your former spouse learn how to overcome the difficulties the holiday season can present and successfully co-parent your way through the holidays:
- Make your children a priority: You might be worrying about how you are going to squeeze in multiple family celebrations for your children, so everyone can get time with them, but you might be creating chaos instead of allowing them the chance to create good memories they will treasure forever. Imagine how difficult it must be for your children to experience so many transitions in the day and how unlikely it is they will be able to bond and connect with family. Instead of trying to ensure everyone spends time with the children, think of your children’s needs and do what is best for them.
- Always plan ahead: If you do not already have a parenting plan that clearly states how the holidays and special events will be handled, now is the time to sit down with your co-parent and get that hashed out. Discuss the traditions you would like to see continue and which ones you can let go of. Keep in mind, however, that even with a parenting plan in place, you should adapt to the changing needs of your kids. The plan that works for them when they are two years old will not work for them when they are teenagers.
- Be flexible: Planning is important, but flexibility is just as crucial for co-parenting during the holidays. Plans cannot account for everything that might happen. Your children might get sick and it might be necessary to scale back your celebrations. If you have the kids on a night where your co-parent wants to do something special with them and you do not have anything planned, consider swapping nights. A goodwill gesture like this will make co-parenting a lot easier and, in the long run, be good for your children.
- Coordinate gift-giving: If you celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah, coordinate the gifts you plan to get, so you can avoid overdoing it. Discuss how many gifts you think they should get, the price range you want to stay in, and which gifts are simply off-limits. Make sure you also share these guidelines with their grandparents as well. Coordinating your gifts can also prevent both of you from trying to outdo each other with lavish, expensive gifts.
- Care for yourself: The better you take care of yourself, the better you can care for your children, so never forget how important your wellbeing is, especially during the holidays. Make sure you eat right, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, and enjoy some downtime now and then. This is also a great way to model healthy behavior for them.
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