Mistakes to Avoid as a Divorcing FatherBy DADvocacy™ | November 21, 2018
Divorce is never an easy experience, given the range of emotions that are often involved and the complexities that are inherently part of dissolving a marriage. For fathers, there are often more challenges involved, given that the system traditionally favors mothers when it comes to child custody matters. Additionally, there are some mistakes fathers tend to make during divorce that can further harm their chances of obtaining a favorable result.
We have compiled a list of the most common mistakes fathers making during divorce, which you should avoid in order to win your custody case:
- Failing to act first: One common mistake fathers tend to make is not being the first to file for a hearing when fighting for custody. Being the first parent to take action will show that you are proactive about your desire to obtain custody of your children, which can only help your case in court. Additionally, waiting for your spouse to file can often lead to increased feelings of frustration and that will not do you any favors during the hearing.
- Leaving the family home: Moving out of the family home after filing for a divorce might seem like the natural thing to do, but it can actually be detrimental to a custody case. When a father leaves his children behind with their mother, it generally does not reflect well on him in court. Not only is it harmful to your child custody case, but it is damaging to the emotional state of the children. If you want to move out of the family home, make sure you first consult with your attorney first before making any decisions.
- Not spending enough time with the children: Courts always put the best interests of the children first when it comes to custody agreements. Generally, it is believed that the involvement of both parents is necessary for children to have a consistent and stable life. When a father does not spend much time with his children, it does not look good in custody court, so try to spend as much time as you can with them. Work on their homework with them, go to the park, or play games – these are all things your children will be grateful for and help your case in court.
- Refusing to work with their mother: Divorce can get ugly, but refusing to cooperate with the mother of your children will not do you any favors. Remember, the court prefers both parents to be involved in the lives of their children, so keep an open mind and work to come to cooperative agreements with the mother of your children.
- Speaking negatively of the mother to friends and family: It is common for the courts to ask for character witnesses in order to best determine which parent should have custody of the children. Therefore, it is crucial to maintain a civil relationship with the mother of your children. You might feel the urge to say something nasty and you might believe that saying it to a close friend or family member means that it will be kept private, but it is much better to be safe than sorry, so keep it to yourself.
- Moving in with a significant other: Divorce is an emotional and confusing experience for children, so adding a new girlfriend into the mix can only make the situation worse. A judge will not look kindly on a father who has introduces their kids to a new partner so early on, especially if the divorce has yet to be finalized, so give your children time to cope with the divorce before you add a girlfriend to the equation.
- Not seeking legal assistance: It is possible to handle your own child custody case, but it does not mean you should. A child custody attorney will have a vast knowledge of the inner workings of the family court system and will be able to provide invaluable advice on how to build a strong case and improve your chances of obtaining a favorable result. Moreover, having an attorney deal with the legal aspects of your case gives you more time to spend time with your children as they learn to cope with the changes brought on by divorce.
Child Custody Attorneys in Miami
If you are in the middle of a child custody dispute, you will need a skilled and experienced child custody attorney to represent you and protect your rights as a father. At DADvocacy™ Law Firm, we understand the unique challenges fathers face when fighting for child custody and are prepared to provide skilled counsel you need to effectively navigate this complex situation as smoothly as possible.
Begin your child custody case today and contact our legal team at (305) 371-7640 to request a consultation with one of our child custody attorneys and learn more about how we can help you.