Halloween: Time-Sharing During Minor HolidaysBy DADvocacy™ | October 15, 2019
Because Halloween falls on a different day each year and we usually don’t get the day off work, the holiday often gets overlooked in parenting plans. Anyone who has a son or daughter, though, knows how excited children can get about All Hallow’s Eve.
Don’t let the holiday turn into a nightmare with your ex. Instead, follow our helpful tips.
Tip #1: Communication is Key
Before the holiday becomes an issue, carve out time to talk with your ex about issues like costumes and candy consumption. Your partner may be more liberal with costumes and you may be more liberal with Halloween treats. The best thing for your child may be a compromise on both counts. Either way, it is important to clarify expectations before the big night.
Tip #2: Put Differences Aside
If your situation allows, you should go trick-or-treating as a family. While this might be a bit unpleasant for you, it will be worth it when you see the smile on your child’s face. If you choose to trick-or-treat together, make sure to avoid fighting with your ex in front of your child. Even if there are disagreements that need to be worked out, they should be able to wait until another day.
Sometimes, your ex won’t be willing to take the higher ground on behalf of your child. If you cannot spend the holiday together as a family, you do have other options.
Tip #3: Half and Half
If your ex refuses to go trick-or-treating with you and your child, you can offer them half of the night. If you take your son or daughter out for the first half of the evening, you might even be able to attend your buddy’s Halloween party afterwards. Additionally, your ex will appreciate their time with the child – even if it is “your night.”
Tip #4: Alternate
When your ex lives in another state or is too hostile to be around at all, you might not be able to share the night of Halloween with them. In this situation, you can agree to alternate the holiday, which you might already be doing with Thanksgiving and Christmas. If you get time with your child for Halloween this year, your ex will get the time in 2020.
Tip #5: Split the Season
Even if you cannot share the night of Halloween, there are plenty of fall activities to go around. If you get to take your child trick-or-treating, for example, let your ex pick their costume. Also, family-friendly parties and pumpkin carving are activities that can happen in more than one household, and your son or daughter will likely be thrilled to participate multiple times.
Enjoy Your Night!
With successful time-sharing, Halloween doesn’t have to be scary for divorced parents. At DADvocacy™ Law Firm, we hope we’ve given you enough options to get through the night – the tips can also be applied to other “minor” holidays.
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