Tips on How to Make Your Holiday Visitation ScheduleBy DADvocacy™ | December 13, 2018
Every parent wants to share as many special moments with their children as possible, but there are only so many days available and, ultimately, parents will need to find a way to fairly compromise with one another. If this is your first holiday season after splitting from your spouse, you are probably just beginning to learn how to navigate your way around these situations. The key to making a holiday visitation schedule work is to be open to dividing, sharing, or even alternating holiday time with the children.
Below is a list of some common ways in which parents tend to share time with their children:
- Alternating holidays every other year: This is a pretty straightforward way to ensure both parents are able to enjoy the holidays with their kids. For example, you might have the children over for Christmas Day on even years, while your former spouse gets them on Christmas Day for odd years. This way, neither of you will miss spending a holiday with the children for more than one year in a row. If your family does not celebrate Christmas, you can use this strategy with any other important holiday or event.
- Splitting the holiday in half: If the idea of spending a Christmas, Thanksgiving, or New Year’s Day without your children is unfathomable to both you and your co-parent, you might consider splitting the day, allowing your child to spend the day with both of you. To make this arrangement work, you will need to coordinate to ensure your children are not spending the holidays traveling all day and getting stressed out or overwhelmed. If splitting the holiday will be too much for your children or you and your former spouse live too far apart from one another for it to conveniently work, this might not be a solution for your family.
- Scheduling a holiday twice: Who says a holiday needs to be celebrated on a specific day? Consider scheduling time to celebrate the holiday of your choice on a day that will actually work for you and your children. For example, if you want to celebrate Christmas with them, but your co-parent has them on the 25th, celebrate Christmas with them on the 20th, or on another day that works. Your children will be able to have two Christmas holidays with both of their parents and no one will feel left out.
- Assign fixed holidays: Some holidays might be more important to you than to your former spouse and vice versa. If your former spouse loves celebrating Thanksgiving, but does not really care much for Christmas Day, you can plan your holiday visitation schedule by according to your preferences. There is no reason why you should have to alternate between holidays if that day does not hold much meaning, so talk about which holidays mean most to you and, if your preferences differ, you might be able to work out an arrangement where everyone is surprisingly able to get what they want.
Of course, you can also try using a combination of any of these approaches to share holiday time and ensure your children are able to truly enjoy the holidays and make memories they will always cherish.
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If you are trying to hash out a visitation arrangement with your former spouse, you will need a knowledgeable and skilled family law attorney on your side to effectively represent your interests. At DADvocacy™ in Miami, our team of visitation attorneys can provide the experienced counsel you need to help you achieve the results you deserve. Instead of trying to embark on this delicate situation on your own, work with a team you can trust and believe in.
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